Does self-talk is all talk ?
Everything is learned
I think most of people should learn how to talk with themselves, regardless the capability to have internal dialogue. What are the reason ? Every time people talk to themselves it gives trace of what their early interaction are. People have two sides as an object and as a subject. When people talk alone, they act partly as a object and subject. Meanings, that you as a person also treating yourself as object (a person) and also as an subject (actor). which lead to accidentally splurt out early trace of whomever whatever however the early trace of holding.
For sure whatever however you treat other person and intricacies of relation, are learned. Learned from early interaction from how our parent speak to Other during childhood; how the little scold, how to the little explanation, how was the coherence, the fluctuation and whatever in between. That’s what are our relating to other people / A.K.A how treating other. That’s in secret is also the way we treating ourselves.
Treating ourselves, treating other ? what are the treat ?
With that in mind it implied that whatever however we treat ourselves already solidied from what kind of parenting that happen during portion of us haven’t yet being consious. Who are the the actor that we copycat during our unconsious part of life ? and what are portion that we succed to copy ? all / partial / none. surely Early Childhood Environment happened.
we are the treat that being treated the way other treat us.
that’s the funny thing, we copy the treat way even before the verbal, pre-verbal.
But wait, thought we are talking about how we talk to ourselves is came from how we talk to during childhood, why we talk about pre-verbal stages ?
that’s the misconception, you are secretly talking to yourselves in verbal and also in non-verbal side.
NoN NaN Non Verbal
What entail non-verbal ?
- Non-Verbal
- adjective /ˌnɒnˈvɜː.bəl not using words, or not relating to the use of words, not able to talk or use words
so that is non- verbal, not relating to words at least what Cambridge Dictionary said.
during our Communication to ourselves we heard, we talk verbally. but where’s the non-verbal portion ? are we seccretly doing gestural communication inside our head now ?
Do you recall when not even a word able to be spoken ? the general attitude ? the vibe? the Holding ? from your parent when you are still a little child ? from your parent now, it repeated internally eternally from yourself to yourselves
Let’s play imaginary catchball
Lest imagine someone throwing ball to you and you are failing catch the ball.
how do you catch yourselves when failing to catch the the ball ?
what are the chat inside the internal ballroom saying ?
Try again ? Condeming you ? Encouraging you ?
can you hear whatever they say ? nice.
now, try to make it quiet.
is it quiet is it exciting is it celebrating or is it quiet, kind quiet ? eerily quiet ? happily quiet ? That are the portion of Non-verbal trace of what pre-verbalize period of living stay and hid secretly without a word or even word.
Does self-talk is all talk ?
Apparently we also talk non verbally to ourselves and thats’ the music and what are the talk content are only the lyrics. what do you think ? does the lyrics matter more than the music or the oposites ? or does it work together ?